In our latest Multiples Matter spotlight, we’re thrilled to introduce Daphne Aw, a dedicated mother of three from Singapore whose journey into motherhood has been shaped by her experience with In vitro fertilization (IVF). Daphne is mom to Asher and Aster, her lively three-year-old twins, whose energy and curiosity fill each day with joy.
Beyond her role as a twin mom, Daphne shares a passion for animal welfare and has a heart for rescuing animals, with her home doubling as a safe haven for a variety of beloved pets, including dogs, rabbits, and birds.
Today’s article is part one of a two-part series exploring Daphne's IVF journey.
What led you to consider IVF as part of your journey to conceive? Did you face any challenges before this decision?
We tried various treatments, from lifestyle changes to less invasive medical interventions, but nothing seemed to work. To our surprise, all the preliminary tests came back normal, and we were diagnosed with "unexplained infertility." This was both frustrating and confusing because, while there wasn’t an obvious reason for our struggles, we still faced the reality of not being able to conceive naturally. Our family doctor referred us to a specialist, and IVF felt like a proactive step forward, giving us hope and a renewed sense of purpose in our journey.
How did you feel emotionally when you first started the IVF process? Was there a moment that was particularly challenging or rewarding?
Each IVF cycle began with cautious optimism but also anxiety. I went through the shots, procedures, and waiting periods, trying to balance hope with the possibility of disappointment. The most challenging moments came with the miscarriages, each of which felt like a devastating blow. After the physical and emotional toll of each failed cycle, I questioned whether I could continue.
Amidst the heartache, though, there were memorable moments that kept me going—like seeing the embryo on the screen during each transfer, offering a small but comforting hope of a new beginning.
Each cycle taught me resilience, faith, and courage. Ultimately, the challenges made the eventual reward even more meaningful.
Who were your biggest sources of support during the IVF process? How did your partner, family, or friends play a role?
My husband, doctors, and those who understood infertility and loss were my strongest supports. My husband, especially, was my rock. His calm and unwavering support helped me through even my lowest moments. He accompanied me to every appointment he could, and although he couldn’t physically undergo the treatments, his presence was invaluable. His strength, patience, and love gave me the courage to keep trying with each failure.
How did you react when you found out you were expecting twins? Was it something you had anticipated or was it a surprise?
Finding out I was expecting twins was an incredible, surreal moment. After multiple IVF cycles and losses, my husband and I were cautiously hopeful when our ninth transfer worked, praying for just one healthy baby.
Twins were not on my radar, and while I was thrilled, I also felt a sense of responsibility and anxiety about the added risks.
Mostly, I was overwhelmed with gratitude—a reminder that persistence and hope can lead to beautiful, life-changing outcomes.
How did IVF and pregnancy with twins affect you physically? Did you experience any complications, and how did you manage them?
IVF and my twin pregnancy brought unique physical challenges. The hormone injections, egg retrievals, and waiting took a toll before I was even pregnant. Early in pregnancy, I had extreme fatigue and morning sickness, which intensified in the third trimester. My third trimester was especially exhausting, with shortness of breath, heartburn, and the need to sleep upright. At around ten weeks, we learned that Twin B was experiencing intrauterine growth restriction (IUGR), which meant close monitoring and constant worry. Every ultrasound appointment was filled with both hope and fear. I focused on small victories, like reaching viability week and each ultrasound showing progress. Thankfully, both babies were delivered safely at 36+6 weeks, though Twin B required some extra NICU care.
What advice would you give to other parents considering IVF, especially those who might be anxious about the process?
My biggest advice is to be kind to yourself and patient with the process.
IVF is filled with highs and lows; there are no guarantees, but there is always hope. Having a strong support system and prioritising your mental and physical health is crucial. Talking to others who understand, leaning on your partner, family, or an online community, and even seeking professional support like therapy can make a huge difference. Engage in activities that help reduce stress, whether it’s gentle exercise, meditation, or simply taking time for yourself—self-care is essential during this journey.
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Thank you for sharing your IVF journey with us, Daphne. We truly hope it will benefit other parents in the TTC (Trying to Conceive) community who may be exploring IVF.
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